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How To Celebrate The Gift Of The Strong-Willed Child

“Strong-willed children often grow into strong-willed adults who become world leaders, world shapers and world changers. Parenting them peacefully is not only possible, it’s imperative because sowing peace in their hearts now when they’re in our care will grow a future of peace later when the world is in their care.” – L R Knost Despite whatever unique challenges our children throw our way on a daily basis, we all adore them. Most of us can identify with that heart-bursting, unconditional love that comes along with this little person you’ve created. We know we should “cherish every moment” and there’s…

Roughhousing

Hmm… you know the old “Do as I say, not as I do?”… I can be a bit guilty of that one! See, it’s been a long time since I was introduced to and began to fully understand the value of roughhousing. Since then I have been a strong advocate and it’s one of the first tools I recommend to parents asking for help with behavioural issues (particularly aggression) but recently I stopped focusing on it in my own home. I had excuses (don’t we always) – “Not enough time!”, “My son does this in his Special Time, anyway!”, “Not…

Attention Seeking Behaviour

One of those things you hear so often is “They’re just doing it for attention!” So what should you do with attention seeking behaviour as a parent? Well, this will be a really short article because the answer is to simply give it to them! AND be glad your child is so efficient in communicating their need. It may feel frustrating but it is actually incredibly helpful and emotionally intelligent of your child to send a clear signal that they are feeling off-track. Off-track behaviour is always a signal and as you become more and more of an empathic parent,…

Q & A: Aggressive Play

Question: I have a 3 year old, 17 month old and number 3 is due in 3 months…. My 3 year old tends to have outbursts and act like a dinosaur and attack his cousins and sister… He’s always roaring like a dinosaur.. We’ve taken all dinosaurs away and he still keeps going. He head butts his cousins and sister too like a dinosaur would! Is this normal? Answer: Whoa!! Busy household!! That must be tough at times? Children under 3 have negligible amounts of impulse control and it (very) slowly develops as they grow older. They used to say…

Why You Shouldn’t Smack Your Kids

NB: I was initially commissioned to write under this title for Petite Bebe blog a few years ago so my children’s ages have changed but the sentiment remains the same. I think we’ve all seen that meme that says something along the lines of “I was smacked and I have something called respect for others!” and after seeing it for the umpteenth time I decided to take a breath and really reflect on how I think smacking DID affect me. I try to practice Peaceful/Gentle/Positive Parenting and I have found in a lot of different forums that people have often…

Q & A: The Thrower

Question: Jack has just passed one and a half, will be two in early May. He is starting to throw things around the house for fun and sometimes when he is upset or angry, he throws things. Like once when he wanted to open the door to the house with the key but I had to do it because he couldn’t he cried and then proceeded to pull every single shoe off our shoe rack and throw them to the ground. It seems to give him some satisfaction, but I worry about the aggression. Last night my partner stopped him pouring…

Q & A – 18MO Separation Anxiety away from Mum

Question: Hi Aunty I have a question I hope you have some advice for. Zach* is approaching 18 months and has always been very attached to me (as he should be) and over the last month or so has been rejecting Dean when I am around. When they have time alone, they get along perfectly, but as soon as I am there Zach will only be with me, shakes his head at Dean constantly and gets very very upset when Dean tries to help me by carrying Zach and when I leave the room, or sometimes even his immediate presence…