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You CAN Do This!

Wake me up when it’s over, right? We have started this year in the most surreal of ways and none of us can be sure what is next. It’s a really hard time for everyone and I can only guess this is why in wake of the unconscionable and tragic loss of George Floyd’s life, people are globally standing up and speaking out and heartily proclaiming that Black Lives Matter. As a person who identifies as black, this came as a shock to me. This has been an internal thing within my own household where I educate my own children…

This Is Not That

Ok, so I know by now you’ve received an email from every organisation you’ve ever come into contact with. Everywhere you go you there is no escaping this weird, scary situation we are in. Maybe a friend-of- friend’s-friend-who-is-a-Dr has had you either terrified with predictions and statistics or you’ve felt naively mollified by finding out that a cup of tea or coffee might be a cure for this thing. If only!!! Sure, you maybe have made a feeble attempt to override the scary news with the 7th, 21st or 42nd photo on all your friend’s phones. But it’s hard to…

Does Parenting This Way Scare You?

I must admit I still get a little nervous when I tell people I’m a parenting instructor. I mean, what on earth does that mean? Who do I think I am? Can you even have the answers to something so nuanced and changeable as parenting? And then this approach… it brings up so many different things from one person to the next. There’s a few who just embrace it, there’s a few who don’t want to hear a thing about it, there’s a few who totally misunderstand it and need a bit of help understanding, there’s a few who totally…

Movies and Moving On

CONTENT WARNING: Mention of sexual assault/rape and misogyny You know that feel-good feeling you get when you’ve just finished a really great movie? It just makes you want to share it with someone else. One of the most fun experiences of parenthood is when you get to share an old favourite with your child for the first time. But then there’s that awful moment when you put on an old fave and suddenly realise it’s not appropriate for an 8-year-old or that the story-line is incredibly problematic. My latest indulgence whilst I clean and do chores has been to watch…

From Rupture To Repair

In my humble opinion there is almost nothing more important to role model to our kids than how to make a good repair. For our children to witness us owning up to our mistakes and connecting and empathising with how this has impacted any other human beings, is one of the greatest gifts we can give them. This is not always an easy thing. I know my issues surrounding apologising are lifelong. “Sorry” was a bit of a dirty word growing up. No one ever wanted to admit they were wrong. No one ever wanted to be that vulnerable and…

SOS or Spoiled Outing Syndrome

What’s the deal with kids? You have the most amazing time with them and instead of just saying “Thanks, you guys are the best parents ever!”, they start to whinge or complain or even totally meltdown? Ok, parents and carers, prepare yourselves to breathe a huge sigh of relief that this is a legit, bona-fide, world-recognised thing and not just a special breed of heinous your own kids have conjured up! Hand In Hand Parenting call this phenomenon “Spoiled Outing Syndrome”. My kids have just started the school year and I know this means intense meltdowns and off-track behaviour due…