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Q & A: Aggressive Play

Question: I have a 3 year old, 17 month old and number 3 is due in 3 months…. My 3 year old tends to have outbursts and act like a dinosaur and attack his cousins and sister… He’s always roaring like a dinosaur.. We’ve taken all dinosaurs away and he still keeps going. He head butts his cousins and sister too like a dinosaur would! Is this normal? Answer: Whoa!! Busy household!! That must be tough at times? Children under 3 have negligible amounts of impulse control and it (very) slowly develops as they grow older. They used to say…

13 Reasons Why: Not Another Teen Drama

NB: As I was writing this post in my head, I had decided to put it somewhere else as I felt too vulnerable and exposed with the idea of putting it on this page with my normal content. As it transpired, I changed my mind as I still feel it’s somewhat of a parenting post even if it covers some controversial topics and some personal information. [UPDATE: I have just watched the “Beyond The Reasons” special and I highly recommend everyone watch that too to really process what they intended.] I hate spoilers. I prefer to go into something with…

Why You Shouldn’t Smack Your Kids

NB: I was initially commissioned to write under this title for Petite Bebe blog a few years ago so my children’s ages have changed but the sentiment remains the same. I think we’ve all seen that meme that says something along the lines of “I was smacked and I have something called respect for others!” and after seeing it for the umpteenth time I decided to take a breath and really reflect on how I think smacking DID affect me. I try to practice Peaceful/Gentle/Positive Parenting and I have found in a lot of different forums that people have often…

Bullying: Be The Change!

Most of us are in agreement that we don’t want our kids to bully or be bullied. Bullying can be deadly and sadly we hear more and more stories about this all the time. If the school your child is at doesn’t have a very clear stance on managing bullying, then that needs to be addressed immediately. However, whilst most schools profess to this on paper, often they are not helpful in practice. I feel this has a lot to do with the punitive nature of school systems often being counter-productive to the cause and also the fact that bullying…

Q & A: The Thrower

Question: Jack has just passed one and a half, will be two in early May. He is starting to throw things around the house for fun and sometimes when he is upset or angry, he throws things. Like once when he wanted to open the door to the house with the key but I had to do it because he couldn’t he cried and then proceeded to pull every single shoe off our shoe rack and throw them to the ground. It seems to give him some satisfaction, but I worry about the aggression. Last night my partner stopped him pouring…

Pretext and the Big Metal Pole

I was recently at a parenting workshop with Dr Larry Cohen (more on that amazing experience when I feel like my feet have come back to touch the ground) and a story came to me. When I was around 15 I was babysitting for two kids I had never met and the little boy who must have been around 6 started chasing me with a huge metal pole. I have no idea how I diffused the situation but I remember as I was putting him to bed (I didn’t run out screaming, apparently) he suddenly burst into tears and said…