Posts Tagged‘Attachment Play’

Roughhousing

Hmm… you know the old “Do as I say, not as I do?”… I can be a bit guilty of that one! See, it’s been a long time since I was introduced to and began to fully understand the value of roughhousing. Since then I have been a strong advocate and it’s one of the first tools I recommend to parents asking for help with behavioural issues (particularly aggression) but recently I stopped focusing on it in my own home. I had excuses (don’t we always) – “Not enough time!”, “My son does this in his Special Time, anyway!”, “Not…

Q & A: Aggressive Play

Question: I have a 3 year old, 17 month old and number 3 is due in 3 months…. My 3 year old tends to have outbursts and act like a dinosaur and attack his cousins and sister… He’s always roaring like a dinosaur.. We’ve taken all dinosaurs away and he still keeps going. He head butts his cousins and sister too like a dinosaur would! Is this normal? Answer: Whoa!! Busy household!! That must be tough at times? Children under 3 have negligible amounts of impulse control and it (very) slowly develops as they grow older. They used to say…

Q & A: The Thrower

Question: Jack has just passed one and a half, will be two in early May. He is starting to throw things around the house for fun and sometimes when he is upset or angry, he throws things. Like once when he wanted to open the door to the house with the key but I had to do it because he couldn’t he cried and then proceeded to pull every single shoe off our shoe rack and throw them to the ground. It seems to give him some satisfaction, but I worry about the aggression. Last night my partner stopped him pouring…

Q & A – 18MO Separation Anxiety away from Mum

Question: Hi Aunty I have a question I hope you have some advice for. Zach* is approaching 18 months and has always been very attached to me (as he should be) and over the last month or so has been rejecting Dean when I am around. When they have time alone, they get along perfectly, but as soon as I am there Zach will only be with me, shakes his head at Dean constantly and gets very very upset when Dean tries to help me by carrying Zach and when I leave the room, or sometimes even his immediate presence…

Special Time – The Great Cup Filler

If you’re a parent then you are probably always hoping for magical quick-fixes to any of your woes. Let me tell you about my number one go-to a.k.a. Special Time. Connection is the cornerstone to good relationships with your kids. Undesirable behaviour or limit testing is always due to an unmet need and (more often than not) a call for deeper connection. I know when this was first mentioned to me it REALLY teed me off! I mean, I was connected to my daughter… pretty much 24/7 and every time I was told my child needed more connection I got really…